My Top 23 Reads of 2023

So, I had grand plans about getting back into blogging and starting off the new year with my top reads right at the very beginning of the year. Yet here we are, almost the end of January–better late than never I guess! I do also plan on doing my 2023 reading stats (anyone else a stats girlie??), but before I get to those I wanted to share the top 23 books I read in 2023. Why 23? Because it rolls nicely off the tongue, tbh. These 23 are my 4 and 5 star reads of the year. I’m also going to include some honorable mentions because my 4 and 5 stars equaled to 28 but that didn’t flow so 3 of my 4 stars will be honorable mentions and then everything else is will be “Top 23” (which includes a series of 3 books).

Still with me? Ok, here we go.

  • Ninth House by Leigh Bardugo: I have been a fan of Leigh Bardugo’s writing since I read Shadow & Bone in 2015 and she is an author I will always pick up. Ninth House is her first adult novel (although Alex is 20, so frontal lobe still not fully formed) and it did not disappoint for me. It’s magical dark academia with some demons and shit. Is it overwritten? A little bit. But I ate it up.
  • The Glass Hotel by Emily St. John Mandel: Station Eleven is one of my favorite novels of all time and being that this is the same author AND *kind of* linked to it, I obviously had to check it out. I didn’t find this one as impactful as Station Eleven, but I love St. John Mandel’s writing and the way she weaves interconnected stories with such subtlety. If you haven’t read Station Eleven you could still read this one, but like read Station Eleven because it’s so good (not to mention the HBO adaptation).
  • The Curse of Saints by Kate Dramis: this is the first in a romantasy series about a court spy who discovers she has a power that could turn her into a deadly weapon in a war she’s not so sure about. It’s enemies to lovers with Will, who’s the queen’s enforcer. And when I tell you, the ANGST–chef’s kiss. The world building is like typical fantasy, but it’s got political intrigue, which I like and again, the ANGST.
  • In Defense of Witches: the Legacy of the Witch Hunts and Why Women Are Still On Trial by Mona Challet: this is an exploration of the character of the “witch” being a symbol of women’s independence and nonconforming to patriarchal expectations throughout history. I found myself nodding my head in agreement a lot and as Taylor Swift says, “they’re burning all the witches, even if you aren’t one, so light me up”.
  • All My Rage by Sabaa Tahir: this is a young adult novel about two friends facing racism and xenophobia who are wanting to escape their small California town for a better life. When tragedy strikes, one of them spirals and their friendship is put to the test. As the title implies, I felt a lot of rage reading this while reading about the injustice they face, but the ending will pull at your heartstrings.
  • Eggshell Skull by Bri Lee: this is a memoir about the author navigating the Australian justice system after she files charges for sexual assault she experienced as a teen. What’s interesting/infuriating is that she also works in the justice system as a judge’s associate, so she sees firsthand from both ends how slow justice can be to come for victims. I thought this was well written and an interesting look at how a justice system works outside of the United States. Also, shout out to the interlibrary loan service my library provides for getting me a copy of this Australian published book when they didn’t have one.
  • To Survive On This Shore by Jess T. Dugan: another interlibrary loan book, this is a photo book of older transgender and gender nonconforming individuals with one (sometimes two) page interviews about their experience being transgender. The adults featured were 40+ years old. The photos were beautiful, and I think an example of two things–1) that transgender and nonconforming individuals have always been a part of society and 2) how beautiful it is when people can be their authentic selves.
  • The Heiress: the Revelations of Anne de Bourgh by Molly Greeley: ok so listen, I am not a Jane Austen girlie. No shade to those who are, I’m sure I’m just uneducated (I have read Pride & Prejudice, so don’t @ me). Anyway, what I’m getting at is that I had no idea who Anne de Bourgh was because it has been literal years since I’ve read Pride & Prejudice. Turns out she was betrothed to Darcy until that harlot (I kid, I kid) Lizzie Bennett stole him. Greeley fleshes out Anne’s backstory as one of opium dependency (at the hands of her mother) and burgeoning sapphic love. I really enjoyed the audiobook and thought the ending was beautiful.
  • Disability Visibility: First Person Stories From the 21st Century, edited by Alice Wong: as the title says, this is a collection of first-person accounts from disabled individuals about their experience being disabled in the United States. Spoiler: it hasn’t been great due to ableism and inspiration exploitation, among other things. This one got me thinking about how I’ve treated disabled people in my life (my granny was wheelchair bound) and how I can be a better disability advocate.
  • Never Coming Home by Kate Williams: ok this one was surprising–I read it because Mara (Books Like Whoa on YouTube) recommended it. It’s a retelling of Agatha Christie’s And Then There Were None, except it’s young adult and features influencers on a remote island. I did not expect myself to enjoy it as much as I did because 1) it’s young adult (no shade, I just am very picky about what YA I like) and 2) I’ve never read And Then There Were None, so I had no reference point. But I thought it was fun! It was a real whodunnit and I still don’t know.
  • Concrete Rose by Angie Thomas: this is a prequel to The Hate U Give, but following Starr’s father Maverick as a teen in the 90s and how he became her father. I really enjoy Angie Thomas’s writing and I thought this was a good exploration of the experience of young Black men in the United States, and how much has changed since the 90s and how much has stayed the same.
  • Excavations by Kate Myers: this is a contemporary about three women on an archaeological dig who discover something that could upend the history of sports as people know it. It discusses misogyny in sports and archaeology, how the patriarchy pits women against each other, and finding yourself after things you used to know are no longer serving you. The wit is very dry; it reminded me of April Ludgate‘s tone in Parks & Rec.
  • When Women Invented Television: the Untold Story of the Female Powerhouses Who Pioneered the Way We Watch Today by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong: I’m a pop culture afficionado and so give me a book about women being great in the entertainment industry. Armstrong features the stories of Irna Phillips (pioneer of daytime soaps), Gertrude Berg (pioneer of sitcoms), Hazel Scott (first African American woman to host her own show), and Betty White (first woman to be nominated for an Emmy)–four very different women who had a major (yet sometimes forgotten) impact on television media and how that impact still resounds today. I had only heard of Betty White (who hasn’t), so it was fun to learn about these other women and their history.
  • Tell Me More: Stories About the 12 Hardest Things I’m Learning to Say by Kelly Corrigan: this is a memoir about phrases we use to connect with one another and it seemed like it could be a little too self-helpy but Corrigan is so relatable and honest that I ended up really enjoying this one. I definitely recommend the audiobook because she narrates it and it had me LOLing quite a few times.
  • Another Day In the Death of America: A Chronicle of Ten Short Lives by Gary Younge: this book came out in 2016, so the statistics Younge is working with has changed, but as of 2019, 4 children under the age of 18 died by a gun, and 60% of those deaths were homicides (pewresearchcenter.org, 2023). This book tells the story of 7 children, all from different races and background, who died by gun violence and the ramifications of being a country without gun control. It really makes one question, “what about the children?”
  • Dancing In the Mosque: An Afghan Mother’s Letter to Her Son by Homeira Qadari: this is memoir about the author’s heartbreaking decision to stay true to herself and her beliefs at the expense of losing access to her son. The author fought for women’s rights in Afghanistan and it got to a point where she had to leave the country and her ex-husband has kept their son from contacting her (essentially telling him she was dead). I’m not a mother, but I could really feel for the author who had to choose between being miserable (and therefore not authentic to her son) or being authentic with all the risks and consequences that entailed.
  • From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death by Caitlin Doughty: I read Doughty’s Smoke Gets In Your Eyes & Other Lessons from the Crematory a couple of years ago and really enjoyed it so I knew I wanted to check this one out. Doughty does what the title implies and travels the world to learn about different death practices in different cultures. Very interesting and thought provoking.
  • The Secret Life of Marilyn Monroe by J. Randy Taraborrelli: I have really only seen like 2 of Marilyn Monroe’s movies but have always felt for her as someone who was just wanting to be loved for being herself. I thought this biography did a good job of depicting the highs and lows of Marilyn’s life with a diplomatic lens–showing Marilyn at her best but also acknowledging her flaws. A well rounded read.
  • In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl’s Journey to Freedom by Yeonmi Park: I have to preface this by saying that having since read this memoir I have learned of the controversy surrounding the author and the book, but at the time of reading it I was enthralled and horrified by what the author endured.
  • White Teeth by Zadie Smith: I listened to this on audiobook and really enjoyed the storytelling. It follows 2 friends, Archie & Samad, who are veterans of World War II and just the mundaneness of them living their lives in London throughout the decades. I love a quiet story that has a simmering theme underneath.
  • Untamed by Glennon Doyle: as someone who is trying to live more authentically, I really enjoyed this one and appreciated the author’s writing style and tone. One of the quotes that has stuck with me is “we forgot how to say no when we learned how to please” (or something like that). As a recovering people pleaser, this has been living in my brain rent free.
  • The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches by Sangu Mandanna: this is a contemporary about a witch who is invited to a home where there are 3 young witches that need teaching, but this is dangerous because when too many witches gather magic can do dodgy things. It features a grumpy librarian dude so this book was not only really fucking cute but it also confirmed my grump/sunshine kink.
  • The Body Is Not An Apology: the Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor: I picked this up because I have body insecurities and I am trying to love and appreciate my body as is. This book was an excellent reminder that some of my shame has been taught and to truly love your body is to break free of the societal expectations and exploitation placed upon us.
  • Pachinko by Min Jin Lee: give me a multi-generational family saga any time. This is about how one young Korean’ woman’s choice sets the trajectory for the rest of her family’s life. It also features World War II, the Japanese occupation of Korea, the splintering of North and South Korea, and so much more. Extremely well written and enthralling.
  • The Locked Tomb series by Tamsyn Muir: I binged all of these as soon as I could (I think I managed to read the 3 that are currently out in 2 months). These books are WEIRD and I was confused by everything that was happening but they were a vibe and I really fucking enjoyed them. If the covers don’t intrigue you, the tagline of Gideon the Ninth is “lesbian necromancers in space” so if that doesn’t get you, I don’t know what will.
  • Know My Name by Chanel Miller: this is the author’s memoir about not only surviving sexual assault at the hands of Brock Turner (who got a six months sentence), but also surviving the justice system where the victim is sometimes made guilty until proven innocent. Miller’s writing is not only vulnerable and raw, but exquisite. I listened to this on audiobook, which she narrates, and I definitely recommend consuming the book that way. It made me outraged on her behalf all over again and wonder what has really changed in our society since then. A very tough and emotional read but so well worth it.

So those were my top 23 reads of 2023! Have you read any of them? Do you agree or disagree with my thoughts? What were your favorite reads of 2023? Let me know!

Until next time,

October 2023 Reading Wrap-Up

We are already a week into Nonfiction November, but here are some stats and quick reviews of what I read in October!

The stats

    The books

    • The Inheritance Games (The Inheritance Games #1) by Jennifer Lynn Barnes: this is the first in a young adult series that has been likened to Knives Out. A teen girl finds out she’s inheriting like Elon Musk levels of money from some tycoon she’s never met and has to deal with his family who are NOT happy about it. The family includes a set of brothers and the girl (Avery) is attracted to two of them. I listened to this on audiobook and thought it was fine but I could have done without the love triangle aspect. I wasn’t compelled to continue with the series immediately but I may in the future.
    • Femina by Janina Ramirez: the subtitle of this one is “a new history of the Middle Ages through the women written out of it” and like yes, but also, no. I’m always drawn to titles about women’s history, so that’s why I picked this one up. I did enjoy it for the most part, but I just felt it was very Eurocentric with the women it focused on, and really English-centric if we want to be specific. While it was fascinating to learn about how women were more integral to medieval politics and society than we might think, I wish it had more of a worldview perspective to it.
    • Ghost Eaters by Clay McLeod Chapman: this is a fiction novel about a drug that lets people see ghosts. It’s supposed to be a look at addiction and grief which like, it is, but the execution was just not great (poor writing, a lot of telling and not showing, boring characters) so it didn’t really have the affect on me that I think it was supposed to.
    • The Republic of Thieves (Gentleman Bastard #3) by Scott Lynch: this is the third in a series so no spoilers but this series is fun and I really like the banter and friendship between Locke and Jean. I do think this series could use an editor but overall it’s a good time.
    • Crown of Midnight (Throne of Glass #2) by Sarah J. Maas: yes, I have started ToG. And yes, I am enjoying it. Since this is book 2, no spoilers, but SJM just has a way of writing that makes me want to turn the pages. I did think the emotion felt over a certain character’s death was a little contrived, but overall I’m currently enjoying the series ride.
    • The Hidden Witch (The Witch Boy #2) by Molly Knox Ostertag: this is the second in a cute juvenile graphic novel series about a boy who wants to be a witch, even though in his community the men are shifters and the women are witches. This second book is about learning to trust others and found family.
    • Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China by Jung Chang: this is both a biography and a historical account of the Republic of China and the rise of communism within it. Jung depicts both her grandmother’s history and her mother’s history alongside the shifting political background in China and how that affected their lives. This is was dense and intense, but ultimately captivating and insightful.

    So that’s what I read in October! You might have noticed that I only mentioned 7 books when I said I read 8, and that’s because one of them was an advanced reader’s copy of a title sent to me for review for Booklist, and the review hasn’t been published yet.

    Have you read any of the books I mentioned? Do you agree or disagree? Let me know!

    Until next time,

    Hello 35.

    First off, it’s really nice to meet you. I’ve looked forward to meeting you for the past few months. There’s something about the age 35 that just says “Hi, this is me” that I am ready to embrace.

    I have to say though, you’re not exactly who I thought you would be. You’re more independent and self-reliant than I thought you would be. You’re someone that has a career you adore and a work crew that you have no idea how you would survive work without. You got into public libraries right after college and have never looked back. Your affinity for yearning and people is what makes the library such a fulfilling place for you. You manage your branch?? Which is honestly pretty cool and you don’t really give yourself enough credit for the work you’ve done to become the leader that you are. I need you to be better about that.

    You have so many people in your friends and family who care about you and love you without expectations. They embrace you as you are and are there for you–even though you feel like sometimes you don’t deserve it. Let me tell you something, you DO deserve it. Love is not transactional, babe, love is not something that is only bestowed on the worthy. Love is the safe space you provide someone and everyone deserves that safe space. I need you to believe that you’re the same to your friends and family that they are to you.

    35, I’ll be honest–I was not expecting you not to have met any of the “milestones” that most of your friends have. You’re not married, you don’t have kids, and you don’t own a home. I know it makes you feel like sometimes you’re in some sort of arrested development, like you’re not really the age you are (your body would tell you otherwise). But 1) like fuck “milestones” because that’s just another word for societal expectations you’re not obligated to meet. 2) I’m actually proud of you for not meeting these milestones because it means you haven’t done anything that doesn’t feel good to you. I mean you might do these things one day, right? But not before you’re ready and absolutely sure.

    I also want to say I’m proud of you for starting therapy. I know you were worried initially that you wouldn’t have anything to talk about, but your therapist is helping you interpret all the thoughts going through your mind and helping you think about who you are as a person, and you need that. Also, it’s just nice to word vomit to an unbiased professional, you know? Therapy doesn’t have to be just for processing trauma; it can help you make sense of the world and your place in it.

    Speaking of your therapist, she’s helping you with your self-esteem, which I think deep down you know you needed. You compare yourself to others a lot and she’s asking you what good does that do for you. And you know what? It doesn’t do any good so you might as well stop doing it. 35 is the year to only do things that serves ourselves.

    I know I don’t tell you this a lot (if at all), but I do love you. I think you are stronger, funnier, and kinder than I ever thought you could be. You’re smart, you’re curious, you’re open to changing your mind and admitting when you were wrong; Your body can still move in the way you want it to–you can run a decent mile and still bend and move pretty easily. But honestly, I need you to love your body more. Your body is cute and it does what you need it to do–that should be enough.

    35, I know you’re going to be great. You’ve got a lot of history behind you that has led you to be who you are today. But I am so excited to see who you will become in the year to come.